Communication Skills
The Lamaze Method requires teamwork. Honest and open communication between yourself and your caregiver is essential. You should feel free to ask questions and to make certain that you understand the explanations given. Below are some tips to help you communicate more effectively with your primary caregiver.
- Think of yourself as a consumer. You are purchasing a service-maternity care. Your doctor or midwife is your consultant. You have hired him/her to oversee your pregnancy and birth, and to provide medical expertise should a problem arise.
- Keep in mind that childbirth is usually a normal, healthy process and that most women require little intervention to have a safe delivery and a healthy baby.
- Ask questions and be sure that you are satisfied with, and understand, the explanations offered.
- If possible, the coach should attend most prenatal appointments to develop a rapport with the doctor or midwife, and to provide moral support for the pregnant woman.
- Listen to how you sound when you speak to your doctor or midwife. Are you hesitant, or do you make your feelings clear? Use a written list. Always ask your questions fully clothed and sitting across the desk from your doctor or midwife in his/her office to put you both on an equal, adult level.
- Be assertive rather than aggressive or passive. (being assertive means standing up for your rights without violating the rights of others.) “I want…” may not be the best way to approach a subject. Phrases such as “I would like to better understand _____.” Or “I’ve heard about _______. Can you tell me more about it?” will probably elicit the information you desire without being potentially offensive to the other person. Doctors and nurses are people, too, and appreciate being approached in the same way that you would like to be treated.
- Assume that people have your best interest at heart, but don’t assume that they know what you want. Prepare your “Birth Plan” and discuss it with your doctor or midwife before you enter the hospital in labor.
- Ask to meet with the physicians or midwives that would become involved in your labor and delivery in the event of your primary caregiver’s absence. Try to ascertain their attitudes and review your “Birth Plan” with them, also. Ask them to honor what has already been agreed to.
- Expect what you have planned for but remain flexible too.
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